Have you ever wondered why a romantic relationship is so high on most people’s wish list? Even for those who don’t plan on having children, most people yearn to share their life with a romantic partner.
And not just any romantic relationship…most people long for a loving, healthy and long-lasting relationship. Isn’t that why so many couples get married? So they can plan for a long-term and committed relationship with the person they fell in love with.
So what happens if you fall out of love? Then what? With no way to predict the future, or a road map for the inevitable challenges along the way, how do couples remain true to the purpose of their relationship and not run at the first sign of trouble?
It all goes back to the reasons you are together…the purpose of your relationship. Knowing why you do the things you do helps you figure out what to do when things don’t go as planned.
Can you easily articulate the purpose of your romantic relationship? To help you do so, here are a few other questions to consider:
What made you fall in love with your partner? Out of all of the people you could’ve fallen in love with, why this person?
Why are you and your partner together? In other words, why do you want to be in this type of relationship with him or her?
What is your idea of a healthy and loving relationship? And has it changed since you and your partner first met?
Whatever your answers may be, it’s more than likely that certain things about you and/or your partner have changed since you made the commitment to stay with each other. Your priorities have probably changed over time, and where there was once harmony, there may now be conflict.
Falling in love is easy. Many people are in love with the idea of being in love, and fall for the first person who helps them feel special. Then, because they feel loved, the purpose of their relationship is to make a commitment to stay in love…with the expectation that their partner will always make them feel special.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could first fall in love with ourselves and then share that love with someone who already loves themselves too? In my eyes, the fairy tale ideal of “you complete me” is outdated and doesn’t serve the true purpose of a loving and healthy relationship.
The way I see it is how Neale Donald Walsch describes it: “The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you share your completeness.”
This doesn’t mean that we’re not here for each other…quite the opposite. We are here to encourage one another, inspire each other, and reflect back to each other the love we already feel for ourselves. The power of true love…it’s beautiful!
So now I’m curious…how do you feel about this? Does this resonate with your idea of a purposeful romantic relationship? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Just hit reply and share away…and be sure to see the P.S. below!
P.S. If you’re willing to share with me the purpose of your romantic relationship, you’ll receive an additional 30 minutes for your free relationship strategy session. That’s 60 minutes of support, encouragement and potentially life changing resources that can help you…at no cost. Simply reply to this message, share the purpose of your relationship and hit “send”. I look forward to hearing from you!